Mitch’s specialty could be considered “collecting conversations,” and he’s here to share with our diehards exactly what that means. He agrees with Jeffrey that your network is your net worth…so Mitch focuses on having more conversations. That way, he can collect more from those talks, whether by sharing that information in a podcast, turning it into a presentation for others or turning it into an area for him to invest in or advise on. Mitch’s secret skill is getting things out of people that not only provide value to them but also end up providing more value to him.
Mitch believes everything he has originated from a conversation before it and his ability to come into that conversation open to hearing what the other person says and letting them finish their sentences. Instead of going into the talks with a bunch of questions that need answering, he takes notes and asks himself, “Where do I want this to go?”
And that is a key takeaway for all diehards because you need to know the difference between meeting with a customer and meeting with a customer to collect the conversation. That intention totally changes the frame of your conversation because you go in thinking, “I can learn something from this, regardless of whether I sell something or not” versus “I need to make a sale.”
It’s also important to go into a pitch with the knowledge of how you can break the typical pitch cycle or saying the exact same thing as all of the other agencies or people competing against you. You want to do everything you can to learn from Jeffrey and others about how you can stand out and be unique. Similarly, just because everybody has a script doesn’t mean you have to follow the script.
Extemporaneous wins over preparation sometimes. But it’s important to realize that the people who can do extemporaneous really well have been spending decades cultivating that skill. And for Mitch, one of the biggest lessons that we can learn while speaking and selling and creating is that you actually can’t just “fake it until you make it.” Everyone starts somewhere, but don’t overestimate how much knowledge or expertise you have. And instead of trying to be the next Jeffrey or Jen or whoever, try to be the next level version of yourself. On a related note, I – Jeffrey – don’t necessarily believe in fake it until you make it. My expression has always been “live it in advance.” That way, you’re projecting yourself rather than faking it.
But one thing Mitch and I both agree on is that the value in a speaker or a book or any big project is not just from the time that person spends creating that project. It’s from all of the years and experience that created the wisdom they have to share. And so many people who try to do online speaking just click “live” and start talking. But what successful speakers actually do is spend hours planning so they know exactly what’s going to happen when they click that button.
People don’t remember that in order to “go,” they need to “get ready” and “get set” first. Just like people often don’t realize that making money as a speaker isn’t as simple as asking yourself, “What should I speak about?” Instead, at least for Mitch, it’s about doing interesting things and cultivating a lot of deep knowledge that makes people want to hear you speak. So if you want to become a speaker and you don’t have enough experience, go out and dig ditches for a while. Get blisters and recover from them and then tell others about what it’s like to dig.